So before anything I’m a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I’d like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I’ve been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don’t understand what they want.

  • invertedspear@lemmy.zipEnglish
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    1 month ago

    The only fact provided is that you were AMAB. Obviously this is limiting your dating pool, but so would many other immediate physical attributes. I will bet that in some cases you found guys that were trying to be open to it, but after a few dates figured out they weren’t as open to it as they thought.

    Beyond that, what kind of conversations are you having? Are you finding shared interests? Are you sensing a spark that fades before it can catch fire? What kind of dates are you going on? Is there any personality clicking at all?

    • Hanna@lemmy.zipOPEnglish
      2·
      1 month ago

      Honestly? No, my hobbies are gardening, reading and writing, and most guys are into videogames and gym. Like all of them it just feels so stupid how a lot of them like those two things. But at the same time I might not see a man with my same hobbies as masculine, which is a huge turn off for me.