How do you “Do as as I say, not as I do”?

  • InfiniteGlitch@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    68·
    9 days ago

    “Don’t overthink it” & “worrying won’t solve the problem when you have to wait anyway”.

    I always give that advice. However, I, personally, always overthink and keep worrying.

    • Carighan Maconar@lemmy.world
      5·
      9 days ago

      I would agree, but I’m still frantically thinking whether I actually agree and whether I should be expressing that publicly!

    • Python@programming.dev
      16·
      9 days ago

      True that haha

      In practice, I live by “never write any code that’s important enough for anyone to insist on testing it” 😎

    • Today@lemmy.world
      8·
      8 days ago

      I’m working on this, though i usually say - I’d rather get bitched at for doing it wrong than for not doing it. At my job it’s to emphasize the stupidity of the task and the lack of training on a shitty system.

  • bassad@jlai.lu
    27·
    8 days ago

    Stop checking the news.

    Grab a book before sleeping rather than your phone.

    • shapesandstuff@feddit.org
      14·
      8 days ago

      Asking for help us a sign if strength, not weakness.

      I know that because i find it extremely hard to ask for help.

    • Akasazh@feddit.nl
      8·
      8 days ago

      Oof that his home.

      All I can say is that things can turn it better, it has for me personally.

      It’s great of you that you inspire others, though, not hypocritical, it’s what we all need sometimes. Doesn’t matter if you don’t see it personally, you are helping another human being get along.

    • otp@sh.itjust.works
      3·
      8 days ago

      Sometimes it helps to take your own advice, like having a conversation with yourself as if you were another person.

      Other times, there’s a cloud around our heads that stops that from working.

      I hope you find someone to talk to who treats you with the same compassion that you treat others.

      Depending on where you live, someone to talk to is probably a phone call away. Give it a try if that’s an option.

  • ChihuahuaOfDoom@lemmy.world
    22·
    9 days ago

    It’s not a problem if it takes you 12 tries and you still haven’t gotten it, do it a 13th. If I don’t do something perfect on the 1st or 2nd try I’ll most likely never do it again.

    • howrar@lemmy.ca
      3·
      8 days ago

      I get the opposite problem. If I get things nearly perfect on the first try, I’ll just think to myself that I’ll never top that and give up. There’s something satisfying about seeing improvement. In the same vein, seeing results get worse is highly discouraging.

    • chraebsli@programming.dev
      2·
      6 days ago

      Ohh that was a good one. best one I think.

      Same as having a good backup strategy but didn’t try to restore once.

  • PunnyName@lemmy.world
    71·
    8 days ago

    Try to hit the gym at least 3 times a day week. Daily if you can, even if it just means a light “spa” day.

      • otp@sh.itjust.works
        3·
        8 days ago

        I overheard someone saying that rest days can be even more important than gym days because that’s when the body recovers.

        My body does a lot of recovering!

        • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
          2·
          8 days ago

          Rest days have really helped a ton mentally actually. I used to never be consistent with any sort of workouts I tried. Because I tried to do them daily and then would just soon get tired of doing it and stop altogether. But now my goal is 1-2 days between workouts. I’ve been able to be fairly consistent since March of this year…excluding unusual things like holidays and illness. I’ve never been this consistent for this long and I think the rest days are really what helped make the distance. Instead of dreading it every single day, I can mentally prepare in advance for when I have to go versus when I can just chillax and veg on the couch.

          • otp@sh.itjust.works
            2·
            8 days ago

            That’s really awesome, and I know that rest days are very important.

            But uh…I was just making a joke about not going to the gym! Ahaha

          • shapesandstuff@feddit.org
            2·
            8 days ago

            Pretty much the classic way of things:

            “i gotta work out -> I’ll do it daily! -> oh no i missed one day -> might as well give up”

            When in reality going once a week is better than not going at all. Going three times a week is difficult enough, especially when you have other responsibilities or hobbies.

  • IHave69XiBucks@lemmygrad.ml
    5·
    9 days ago

    I will give men advice on how to be more attractive to women but i dont use that advice because i only like men lol. Not that im like the women whisperer i just find straight men to be… misguided i guess is the best word. They project their own wants onto women and dont consider hey maybe she doesnt want the same things you do in a partner.

    • MeowZedong@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
      3·
      8 days ago

      “If you can’t truly be a good, supportive, platonic friend to her with no secret ulterior motive, maybe you don’t deserve her. Maybe you need to take a look at not only how you treat women, but how you think about them.”

      Most straight men have a lot of patriarchal shit they need to work out within themselves that contribute to them being bad partners.