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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • I don’t think it’s bullying, because bullying involves tormenting them - finding what they react negatively to, and pushing on that. Here, you’re letting them know that there’s something you need them to do before you’re comfortable playing with them. You might think of it as modelling how to protect your own bodily autonomy!

    For me, when my kids were going through that, I’d say something like “Ack! Don’t touch me with poo hands! Go wash first, then you can climb on me!” It’d generally get a giggle, then they’d go finish washing up. You’ll want to pay attention to their reaction whatever you do, but if you make it clear they’re still welcome to play, I don’t see how it could be bullying.





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    27 days ago

    The older one just had a dental appointment today, and was uncomfortable with some of the procedures. My wife talked him through things along with the hygenist, and for a few things she took a different approach he was more comfortable with.

    With vaccine reluctance, we generally go straight to bribes. We treat ourselves after doing something like that anyway, so why not them?

    So far, we haven’t had any issues yet!


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    29 days ago

    We’ve been doing this with our kids; and when they say “no” and someone doesn’t stop, you better believe they say something about it!

    Similarly, we’ve been getting consent before the doctor checks any underwear space. No pushback from any doctors or nurses for that either.








  • I think that would be throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

    People who live in an area should be empowered to push back against outside interests coming in and changing things to the detriment of the residents, like the HOA posted earlier that protected their forest and watershed.

    The problem is that this power is often turned back onto the residents. This sounds to me like hyper-local politics - and so the answer is to get involved and vote out the assholes in power, not ban the existence of the political body!

    (Edit) I didn’t realize this, but some HOAs are controlled by outside developers, rather than local residents? That I can get behind banning!