Hey everyone! I hope your day is going well!
Apologies for a little vague title, its just that I have graduated from college now in Computer Science. It’s just the thing I am a little worried is about my social life and my weight. Like since I graduated like a month ago, my job is gonna start next month so between the free time I spend literally indoors all the day and night playing CK3, reading, learning some stuff I thought I might need them when I’ll start working. I just have feelings to talk about and try to see what can I do for myself.
Like I know I’ll need to get my car now that I finally got my driver’s license once I get a month’s pay. I feel like I am just not interesting person and can’t socialize even though I do text and call some people like I feel like there is something missing. I never had a girlfriend, missed out on that experience and everything. I think that is something I feel like that’s missing cause even if I have a great time with my friends and everything, its just I want someone to be there for me at night as well like close to me. It seems unrealistic and progressively starting to feel hopeless that I won’t find love.
I do engage in my hobbies and just started to learn my guitar. I do need to hit the gym, its just transportation is a big hassle so I thought maybe I’d just wait till I get my car so I can hit the gym.
Sorry if I said was unclear and being all over the place. I hope everyone has a nice day!
It seems to me like you’re a bit overwhelmed by your troubles, so the first thing I’d recommend (if you’re not already doing it) is therapy: it can help you figure out what you really want and why you don’t have it. Outside of that you probably shouldn’t be putting so much pressure on yourself, there’s no template that your life needs to fit in, you can just take your time and figure it out; it’s good that you want to better yourself, but you should also cut yourself some slack.
If you work on yourself (gym, knowledge, social, gaming) a partner will come more or less naturally in my experience. You’ll find people that you’re interested in doing those things, and even better they’ll be interested in you as well! It’s important to choose activities that are beneficial to you though; as fun as CK3 all night and all day might be, it might be reasonable to take just an hour off to bike to the gym, move some weights around a little bit, and bike back.
Generally in all your hobbies and work, I would recommend trying to balance your commitment to what you’re doing to your own mental and physical health. As fun as it is to go 24/7 in one direction (CK3, work, school), a mix is better.
