You need to do your part too and if you’re unable to get over it by yourself you might need professional help to deal with it. I’ve known people who never got over their divorce and all of them were making choices to intentionally make things harder and none of them had sought help even if it would have been free for them… It’s sad to see your colleague still talk about “my husband” everyday when they’ve been divorced for 30 years and haven’t seen each other in at least 20…