You don’t learn how to cope with ADHD better if you are undiagnosed than if you are diagnosed. If that was true people wouldn’t need to get diagnosed in adulthood because they would’ve developed the skills already. I need reminders for my reminders, and reminders for when I forget the second reminder and I still fail to do them. And that’s not to mention shame and ridicule you receive for “not even putting in effort” when you put in 10x as much effort and still failed. I don’t know a single person with ADHD diagnosed as an adult who got anywhere near NT levels of functioning. Actually they’re all worse than every person I know with ADHD who was diagnosed as a child. Not knowing why you are struggling doesn’t make it easier.
I think you misunderstand me. We get coping mechanisms but understanding them, what they are and why they happen makes a world of difference. Which you get from being diagnosed. But getting better from them isn’t always about medication, it can be about developing those natural mechanisms further and supplementing them with other stuff, like my little notepad I mentioned. Exercises like that, that help with memory and focus and whatnot. That’s what I was getting at.
But how does going through life undiagnosed and struggling help you develop coping mechanisms better than being diagnosed and knowing why you are struggling?
That’s not what I said. I said that going undiagnosed for a certain amount of time you get coping mechanisms. That didn’t mean they are 100%. If you kept reading you’ll see that I got diagnosed so why would I use my example to say being undiagnosed is good?
You don’t learn how to cope with ADHD better if you are undiagnosed than if you are diagnosed. If that was true people wouldn’t need to get diagnosed in adulthood because they would’ve developed the skills already. I need reminders for my reminders, and reminders for when I forget the second reminder and I still fail to do them. And that’s not to mention shame and ridicule you receive for “not even putting in effort” when you put in 10x as much effort and still failed. I don’t know a single person with ADHD diagnosed as an adult who got anywhere near NT levels of functioning. Actually they’re all worse than every person I know with ADHD who was diagnosed as a child. Not knowing why you are struggling doesn’t make it easier.
I think you misunderstand me. We get coping mechanisms but understanding them, what they are and why they happen makes a world of difference. Which you get from being diagnosed. But getting better from them isn’t always about medication, it can be about developing those natural mechanisms further and supplementing them with other stuff, like my little notepad I mentioned. Exercises like that, that help with memory and focus and whatnot. That’s what I was getting at.
But how does going through life undiagnosed and struggling help you develop coping mechanisms better than being diagnosed and knowing why you are struggling?
That’s not what I said. I said that going undiagnosed for a certain amount of time you get coping mechanisms. That didn’t mean they are 100%. If you kept reading you’ll see that I got diagnosed so why would I use my example to say being undiagnosed is good?