…and what tips would you give someone less experienced to prevent them being repeated?

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    Water is not a lube, sex in a hot tub isn’t great.

    Men can fake a orgasm too, if needed.

    Group sex is only fun if everyone is having fun.

    Don’t brush your teeth immediately before or after sex. It can open small cuts in the gums and make them bleed ever so slightly.

    Just because your done doesn’t mean their done.

    You can always say no to sex, good excuses are headache, drank too much, feeling nauseous, already had too much sex.

    If someone asks you to meet up at 3/4am, it’s not because they are so horny for you they couldn’t get you off their mind… No, they went out all night and struck out and your their backup option.

    Drunk sex can involve vomiting, passing out, mood swings, shouting… It can also be fun, but make the decision knowing that you might end up babysitting your partner… (Especially if it’s the 3/4am booty call)

    Better to tell your partner your a total slut, then pretend your a saint. If they like you it won’t matter, and then there isn’t a feeling of betrayal or mismatched expectations.

    Prep and the hpv vaccine are not hard to get, no expensive, and something to do before you think you need it. It’s a mistake not to use them.

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      Just because your done doesn’t mean their done.

      I love and agree with everything you’re saying, but reading that legitimately makes my brain zap in a funny way.

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      Water is not a lube, sex in a hot tub isn’t great.

      This is great advice. Water is actually anti-lube and removes any actual lubrication. Showers, pools, hot tubs, and other similar places all are a lot less fun in reality and suffer the same logistic issues.

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      General tip for handling peppers. The spicy component is an oil. Dry fingers like ones that have just been washed absorb oil and thus spice.

      After washing and before cutting rub a drop of olive oil on you fingers. This can greatly reduce the amount of spicy your fingers absorb. Or use gloves.

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    Don’t rub frantically on genitals like they do in porn - that’s only up to the owner of the genitals.

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      Or at least, dont do this without slowly building up to it first and being absolutely positive that you have enthusiastic consent, and a LOT of lubrication. Ideally, work with your partner to figure out what/how/how fast or hard they like it. The clit (and tip of the penis) can be so sensitive that over stimulation can very quickly start to feel uncomfortable.

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    Don’t go hard in prone bone mode while already going long stroke.

    You don’t want to pop out and miss going back into the vagina. One or the other of you will be in pain, possibly both.

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    be careful when you’re shaving your nethers, especially when you have a penis and/or balls, use shaving cream and GO. SLOW.

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    If you want to have sex in a hot tub, use oil for lube (preferably before getting in), it works pretty well.