Based on data from https://fedipact.veganism.social/ it seems that the majority of instances blocks threads.net. I’m sure there’s Lemmy instances with either approach that have slipped through the cracks as the list is a work in progress.
The percentage of users doesn’t correlate to instances as the biggest instance on the Lemmyverse has roughly 3x the users of the second largest, a NSFW instance, 4x the users of the biggest “niché” instance and 5x the users of what I see as the second largest general purpose instance.
As an instance admin it seems incredibly irresponsible to allow my server to spoon feed Meta my users data and activity through federation.
And Meta proved many, many times that they are utterly untrustworthy.